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Connecting with Spirit Guides and Your Individuality
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Connecting with Spirit Guides and Your Individuality

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Because all of us have different minds, different bodies, and different souls, our spiritual paths and how we connect to our guides will also be different. While I share my experiences, favorite techniques and exercises, and others I have tried but aren’t for me, I always encourage you to adapt and integrate any of this information and these practices as you feel called to. You can and should test out anything you feel called to and add it into your spiritual journey as you see fit. 

Spirituality is Individual

I believe the individuality of the spiritual journey is something that often holds people back from fully exploring and embracing this part of themselves. As humans, we are herd animals. We have survived as a  species by sticking together and by repeating what we have survived in the past. Many institutions, from organized religious to cultural societies to schools have used this aspect of humanity to instill in us the idea that we all must do the same practices, embrace similar beliefs,, and exhibit the same behaviors, and if we do, we will all have the same results in the end.  However, spirituality is different because our souls are all here for different reasons and we’ve all had different experiences over lifetimes. As such, we will experience our spiritual journey differently. Do we all need certain things to survive? Yes. Food, water, and shelter. But do we all need the same things to thrive? Absolutely not…and it would be a very boring world if we did!

To me, to fully embrace your spiritual connection and to discover and engage with your personal spirit guides and angels, you absolutely must embrace your authenticity and your unique human experience. You much learn to know, accept, and love who you are at soul level, which is the human you came here to this incarnation to be. To do that, you get to do what works for you. In fact, it is essential that you do.

For years, I tried to connect with my spirit guides by following various methods, practices, and meditations. I would follow the instructions to a T. Dedicating myself to mastering this gift. Yet I never seemed to get anywhere. Knowing that I am a highly intuitive person, I saw this inability to connect with my guides as a failure or as a special gift I simply didn’t have even though deep down I knew we all had the ability to do it. I was troubled by the question of why, when so many other spiritual things came to me so easily, could I not seem to communicate with my guides? It made me question myself and my abilities. It made me almost give up on it. And it made me doubt spirit guides even existed.

It wasn’t until I started to follow my own rules – in other words, there are no rules! – that I realized my guides had already been sending me messages for quite some time. When it first began, I realized one had been sending me signs for nearly a year. Now I know I’ve been receiving signs since I was a teenager. The problem was that the communication wasn’t coming through in the ways I had read about and learned. It wasn’t what I expected. It was new and different. And I had been limiting myself to an imitation of others’ experiences with their guides. This is why I urge you to follow your intuition, your inner voice, those seemingly insignificant callings. Each one will be leading you to the correct next step for you on your spiritual journey.

While connecting with your spirit guides may take some time and some patience, and it may also require some trial and error, I can assure you that you do have a whole team of guides waiting for you to receive their messages. You can connect with them any time you choose, and you don’t need to go through anyone else to do it. We all do, and we all can. So please, give yourself some grace. Give yourself some time. Be patient. And most of all, allow yourself to get creative in this endeavor!

Spirituality vs. Religion
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Spirituality vs. Religion

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So many people shy away from their innate spirituality for one big reason: Religion. They either believe spirituality is against their religion or they mistake them for the same thing. And it’s an easy mistake to make. Or maybe they had a bad experience with religion.

For thousands of years, religion has been a powerful force on this planet. In many ways, religion took over spirituality. It became the most accepted way to explain things that could not easily be understood. As Christianity spread, it even went so far as to incorporate practices and holidays from old, spirit-based religions to promote this new one.

To be clear, I don’t like to hate on religion. In fact, it fascinates me how similar so many of the world’s religions are to each other. Yet we tend to focus only on the differences. To me, religion is not separate from spirituality, but it’s not the same either. I consider religions to simply be different modalities through which people can access and make sense of their spiritual nature.

However, because of the politics and power struggles that make up the history of so many religions, the spiritual aspect as it pertains to an individual is often forgotten. “Spiritual” became an aspect of religion to strive for, rather than something we are born with. Spirit became something outside of ourselves, not part of who we are. We were told we could not connect to spirit without religious leaders or practices. And as with anything, when we are told something often enough and for long enough, we eventually come to believe it. 

Yet a part of us knows deep down that somehow and somewhere we are connected to the spiritual realm and that spirit lives within us. I got lucky in that department. Growing up Catholic, I attended CCD regularly. As I was nearing the date of my first Reconciliation, I recall having a huge sense of dread. We had to confess our sins to our priest for the first time. At nine years old, talking to adults was not something I loved to do…talking to anyone was not my thing. So the idea of having to sit one on one with Father Barnes and tell him about all the horrible things I had done so far in life absolutely terrified me. What should I even say? That I didn’t clean my room when my mom told me to? That I didn’t wash the dishes? The “sins” were unbearable!

As the fateful day approached, my dad sensed my dread and asked me if I was nervous. I will never forget his response when I confirmed his suspicion. He said, rather matter-of-factly, “it doesn’t matter. You can talk to God directly any time you want to. And you don’t need to go through a priest to do it. So just tell him about the fight you got in with your sister the other day.” And my nine year old mind was blown…and full of questions. If we can talk to God whenever we want to, why are they teaching us that we can’t? And more importantly, how do we do it?!

Thinking back on that moment, it is no surprise that I always felt more connected to spirit than a lot of people around me. Unlike them, I was told from early on that I was. I didn’t have to discover it after years of soul searching. It was simply something that I accepted. However, I did need to learn how to do it and to truly believe I had that power. 

Whether you consider yourself religious or not, and regardless of your past experience with religion, you are connected to spirit and you can communicate with God, the universe, whatever you choose to call it, and with your spirit guides as well. You just need to learn how to do it and how to believe in and trust the guidance you receive. 

To learn more about connecting with your guides, join me Tuesday, April 18th at 3:30 p.m. ET for a free Spirit Guides Masterclass. Click here to learn more and register.

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FREE Third Eye Chakra Hypnosis Recording

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Did you know that when you Strengthen Your Intuition and Balance Your Third Eye Chakra, it assists you in connecting with your Spirit Guides?

The third eye chakra, also known as the Ajna chakra, is believed to be important in spiritual practices as it is associated with intuition, perception, and spiritual awareness. It is thought to be a center of higher consciousness and can help individuals connect to their inner wisdom and guidance.

The third eye chakra is associated with intuition, insight, and spiritual awareness. It is believed that when this chakra is balanced, individuals are better able to trust their intuition and make decisions based on deeper wisdom. It also helps people to build self trust, connect with spirit guides, and trust their messages.

Meditation, Visualization, and Hypnosis can help you to balance your third eye chakra. I created a powerful hypnotic meditation to combine all three practices. It is the perfect way to give your intuition a tune-up!

And it’s FREE!!

Click here to download the free recording.
How to Get Your Mind Ready to Meet Your Spirit Guides
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How to Get Your Mind Ready to Meet Your Spirit Guides

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Communicating with spirit guides is something everyone can do. In fact, your guides are already communicating with you…but chances are you are missing their messages. Why? Because your mind isn’t ready yet. Fortunately, you can prepare yourself to connect with your guides. 

Here are 5 ways you can prep your mindset to connect with your guides and receive their messages.

1. Embrace the Power of Your Mind

There are three levels of the mind to be aware of when communicating with the spirit realm.

First is the conscious mind. This is the logical, doing part of our mind that makes us take action on what we set out to achieve. We rely on our conscious mind heavily, and it is essential to our existence, yet it only represents about 5-10% of our individual mind power.

Next is the Superconscious – the universal energy where all-that-is exists, including spirit. It is where this guidance is coming from and is accessible to everyone, containing all knowledge and possibilities. The superconscious is not individual to us as humans. It is a collective energy.  

Between the two lies the subconscious mind, which makes up the other 90-95% of our individual mind power. It is the bridge between the superconscious and the conscious mind. It is where our intuition, emotions, and creativity lie, as well as our habits and beliefs. This is why getting your subconscious mind on board in your spirit guide journey is so important. 

2. Strengthen Your Intuition

Each and every one of us is born with an internal guidance system that assists us in connecting with the spirit realm – our Intuition.

You are an intuitive person, whether your realize it yet or not…and you don’t have to sit back and wait for your intuition to show up. You can strengthen and develop it like any skill. Connecting with your intuition intentionally and consistently helps you make better decisions faster, helps you build self trust, and assists you in connecting with your spirit guides, receiving their messages, and trusting their guidance.

Feel like your intuition could use a boost? Check out this free hypnosis recording I made to help you with this!

3. Throw Logic Out the Window

Now that we know the subconscious mind is crucial to connecting with our spirit guides, we need to take what is often the hardest step. We need to throw logic out the window. Not entirely and not forever, but it can hinder your ability to recognize your spirit guides and to receive their messages. 

Connecting with spirit guides – and living any type of spiritual life – requires us to let go of logic, let go of our need to analyze, and our preoccupation with concrete proof of our experiences. Plain and simple, it is spirit. It is not material. So hard evidence will never exist except as a deep inner knowing as you learn to trust your higher self and intuition in a new way. 

In the beginning, it takes faith. As you connect more, what begins as a belief or maybe only a hope soon turns into a knowing. 

4. Overcoming Ego and Listening to Higher Self

Our ego is designed to keep us safe. It loves our comfort zone and it will do anything in its power to keep us right where we are, playing safe, holding ourselves back, and doing what we have survived every day of our lives doing. Above all, it fears change. But change is essential when we want to move ourselves from the comfort zone of our current existence to progressing on our spiritual journey. 

Our ego uses fear and logic not to intentionally hold us back, but to keep us safe. It keeps us in our comfort zone because it perceives change as scary and dangerous. And this keeps us from connecting to our guides.

Our higher self, however, simply knows what we’re meant to do. As we learn to re-establish and trust the communication lines with our higher self, we learn to safely move past that place where our ego has been keeping us. So, how do we do this? With intention. Through meditation, mindset practices, and hypnosis.

5. Practice Receiving

One of the very first and most powerful ways to really embrace the guidance of your spirit guides is allow yourself to receive it! As I learned from coach Andrea Quinn in her book, The Quinn Essentials, we are so accustomed to doing all the time, getting as much done as we possibly can, checking everything off our to-do list, and often doing everything for everyone else that we forget to allow ourselves to receive.

That’s part of why we so often don’t hear the guidance of our higher self, from our intuition and from our spirit guides. We don’t recognize it because we’re not allowing ourselves to receive it fully.

We’re used to doing, giving and sometimes taking, but allowing and receiving are where the real magic happens. Here’s the thing about receiving…women are literally designed to receive. But after thousands of years of fitting ourselves into a patriarchal society, many of us have become the doers and the givers. Not the receivers.

Look for other opportunities in your daily life to practice receiving. This may be receiving compliments without immediately feeling the need to reciprocate (aka giving), or perhaps its in receiving help or favors from friends or family or even strangers. It can even be as simple as spending a few minutes each day receiving breath, rather than taking breath…and noticing how different it feels!

Find these opportunities and allow yourself to receive them. As you open yourself to the idea of receiving in the physical sense, you will also open yourself up to receiving guidance that your spirit guides have been trying to give you. 

As you prepare your mindset to receive your guides, your guides will know you are ready to meet with them and hear their messages, and begin letting their presence known in a number of ways! And that is a post for another day 🙂

Want to go deeper into this? Check out my FREE Spirit Guides Masterclass!

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How to Strengthen Your Intuition in Less Than 10 Minutes a Day

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We are all intuitive. Every single one of us. This isn’t a gift for the rare few. It’s not something for only introverts or quiet thoughtful souls. Each and every one of us has intuition, and you’ve likely been using it already. Intuition is defined as: The ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning. It’s the ability to just know or feel when something is right or wrong. When something is off, without any real context to inform that knowledge. 

Intuition is a knowing that cannot be rationally explained. The impulse to get off the highway an exit earlier than planned, only to find ut a huge accident occurred just down the road moments later. Choosing not to go to a certain party and then learning your ex showed up unexpectedly. The calling to go to the beach to relax instead of working one day, and having major breakthroughs in your career goals as you soaked in the salty air. 

But intuition is so much more than these serendipitous moments. It is our inner guidance system. It is the voice of our higher self that always knows what is best for us, even when it makes no sense logically – and is not what we want to hear. For the purpose of this book, our intuition is a bridge to the spirit realm through the superconscious. Most importantly, intuition is not something that just happens when it happens. 

It is something that can and should be developed so we can learn to hear and trust it easier and easier each day. To begin this process, we must learn to actively listen to this inner guidance system. And the best part is that it’s pretty easy to do!

Here are three simple steps to strengthen your intuition in 10 minutes a day!

1. Set the intention to Listen
2. Sit in stillness with your eyes opened or closed and simply notice what you notice. What do you hear? What do you see? What do you feel? Notice the things you’re picking up in “real” life and the things in your mind. Do this for 3 minutes, resisting the urge to track it or analyze it.
3. After 3 minutes, write down everything you recall.

Do this three times a day, at different times and in different places.

As you do this, you’ll begin to see patterns in what you are noticing as well as where and when you notice more!

This will tune your mind into listening in a new way, with all of your senses, inviting your intuition to speak to you more often and more clearly.

Click here for a video on this intuition strengthening technique.